Pink’s confessions about the challenges of marriage (and sex!) After motherhood are spot on

She may be a music superstar, but her thoughts on marriage, sex and monogamy are so relatable it hurts.

There’s plenty to love about Pink. First, there’s the music—more than 16 years of hits that basically served as the party soundtrack for an entire generation and earned the music superstar an MTV Vanguard award earlier this year.

Then, there was the unforgettable speech she gave at the VMAs when she accepted the award. Her 6-year-old daughter, Willow, had confessed that she was “the ugliest girl I know.” In response, Pink “went home and made a PowerPoint presentation for her,” featuring androgynous rock stars that “lived their truth” despite criticism. She said in her speech, “So, baby girl, we don’t change. We take the gravel in the shell and we make a pearl. And we help other people to change so that they can see more kinds of beauty.” She was met with thunderous applause and plenty of tears—from the live audience, and those watching at home too.

So it’s not surprising that the music legend is still being charmingly candid—but it is admirable, especially in an age where pop stars tend to present the best, airbrushed version of their lives to the public.

In a recent interview with the Guardian, the music legend opened up about the struggles of marriage after motherhood, a subject she tackles on her new album, Beautiful Trauma. (She started dating her husband Carey Hart in 2002, and they have two kids together, Willow, 6, and Jameson, 1.)

“There are moments where I look at [Hart] and he is the most thoughtful, logical, constant … he’s like a rock,” she says. “He’s a good man. He’s a good dad. He’s just the kind of dad I thought he’d be and then some. And then I’ll look at him and go: ‘I’ve never liked you. There’s nothing I like about you. We have nothing in common. I don’t like any of the shit you like. I don’t ever wanna see you again.’”

There’s not a married woman alive who can’t relate to that quote. Even if we passionately love our husbands, sometimes it’s hard to like them. (We bet they’d say the same about us.) That’s just the challenge of keeping the home fires burning in today’s busy world.

And her thoughts on the subject of sex after kids are pretty spot-on, too:

“Then you’ll go through times when you haven’t had sex in a year. Is this bed death? Is this the end of it? Do I want him? Does he want me?”

Ultimately, we’re happy to report, Pink is an optimist. “Monogamy is work! But you do the work and it’s good again,” she continues. Truer words were never spoken.

This isn’t the first time Pink has won us over by giving her fans a glimpse into her life as a badass working mom. In July, she posted a photo of herself multitasking like a pro—breastfeeding her son while getting her makeup done (and little Jameson was even helping).

Thank you, Pink, for always keeping it real, and serving as an inspiration to working moms (and little girls!) everywhere.