The OP wrote, “I met my husband 13 years ago. We were married after two years of being together. When I first met him, he told me that he had a 2-year-old daughter that he had no interest in being a father to, and that she wasn’t a planned baby. I accepted this, and accepted that he just paid child support and that was it. His child lives with her mom in Pasadena, and we live in Vermont- so as you can imagine, worlds away. My husband never once expressed an interest in going to see his child, maintaining contact, they NEVER spoke or exchanged birthday cards, Christmas cards, etc.” She noted that her husband had even pleaded with his ex to have an abortion.