A: First, I’m sorry you have these suspicions! Second, I know you’re hoping I’ll say, sure, betray his trust as you suspect he’s betrayed yours, but I can’t. That would put you on a slippery slope of sneaking around more and more, and isn’t that the exact thing you don’t want him doing to you? Dear Candy is and forever will be a hypocrite-free zone. But I’m going to help you put your mind at ease anyway—and get you the answer you desperately seek.